Can you trust God with your love life? Can you rely on Him to provide you with the right mate, in the right time?
Valentine’s Day is just a few days away and the stores are flooded with red, white, and pink paraphernalia. I’m sure I’ve said it before but this is one of my favorite holidays, and that’s because growing up we always made the day special for everyone and focused very little on the “couples” aspect of it. However, I realize at the same time it can make quite a few single folk feel left out, only pressing home the fact that another year has gone by with no significant other to make the day “all that it should be.”
Today I want to share a story with you that, I hope, will encourage you in your waiting and help you look at it in a new light.
A Beautiful Love Story
“Then Rebekah lifted her eyes, and when she saw Isaac she dismounted from her camel… Then Isaac… took Rebekah and she became his wife, and he loved her,” (Genesis 24:64, 67).
The well-known patriarch Abraham had been told specifically by God not to choose a bride for his son among the local women in Canaan where they lived but to go back to their hometown for one. Since it was customary for the parents to choose their children’s mates, and as Abraham was too old to see to the mission himself, he entrusted the job to the chief servant. God carefully guided the servant to the right spot at the right time to meet Rebekah, a young woman from a god-fearing family. The circumstances made it so obvious that God was leading that Rebekah couldn’t do anything less than agree to go with the servant to a foreign land to marry a man she had never met. As unlikely as it may sound, the results were beautiful, as the verses above testify.
If you haven’t read this story recently then I highly recommend reading it again – Genesis 24.
Different Methods – Valuable Truth
The method used in this account obviously differ from today’s test-and-throw-back method of modern society, but aside from the peculiarity of the ancient culture I think there is a challenge here worthy of consideration.
Many might look at this story with skepticism, curious why Isaac had nothing to say in the matter, or why he didn’t go and find Rebekah himself as Jacob did many decades later. After all, this was his and Rebekah’s love story in the making and yet it would appear neither had a very big part in the way it came about.
But in that lies an important truth: Neither Isaac nor Rebekah needed to do anything to ensure they ended up with the right person because God was in control. He brought them together, according the custom of the day, in His time and in such a way that there would be no doubt the two were meant for each other.
If you are a single woman reading this, do you find it hard to believe that God would be interested in your love life as well?
To look at it frankly, nothing terribly spectacular happened in their love story. It wasn’t a Cinderella story of rags to riches. There wasn’t a moment of serious misunderstanding before the truth was revealed to further strengthen their relationship. No forbidden love or disapproving family members to overcome. And yet it was beautiful because the pieces fit so naturally. Isaac and Rebekah were meant for each other. They didn’t have to go out and look for romance — God brought them together and satisfied their hearts desires.
Why did He do it? Because He loved them. He loved them from conception and created a plan for their lives. He was careful in working out the events to achieve that plan. Just as He does now for each of us.
Two Necessary Elements
Though God arranged the circumstances without any help from man, He did require two things of all the characters in the story: obedience and trust.
1. Abraham obeyed God by sending his servant and trusted Him to guide the outcome of the mission (v. 7).
2. The servant obeyed God by obeying his master and trusted Him to lead him to the right woman (v. 14).
3. Rebekah’s family obeyed God when they heard how He had lead the servant to them and trusted that it was indeed from God (v. 50).
4. Rebekah obeyed God by going with the servant, and trusting Him with her future (v. 58).
5. Isaac obeyed God by accepting the bride He had chosen and trusting that she was the right one for him (v. 67).
God orchestrated according to what He had planned for those He loved, and that was His best. All He required in return was obedience and trust.
Looking at it Today
I think this love story has a lot to teach, not only about finding true love in the right mate, but about God’s love and interest in the lives of His children. He cares so much about us that preparing the right person for us to spend the rest of our lives with is important to Him. And, if we trust and obey Him, He will work His will in our life to that effect.
As a single woman myself, just as curious as Rebekah about her love story, the truths found in this historical account are incredibly liberating. It removes all responsibility from myself to find “the right man.” I can know that a truly beautiful love story will be mine if I leave it in God’s hands. And because of this freedom, the single years of my life don’t have to be wasted in waiting and wondering but instead made productive, all the while trusting God to work out His plan, in His time.
What do you think? Does this story about God’s interest in two peoples love life say anything to you about His interest in yours?
For another Valentine’s Day article, read Find the Perfect Man: Check!